Failure - Is it a Doomed word ?

I was terribly shocked to see the picture of an Engineering Student in the first page of the newspaper few weeks back. I would have been happy if the same guy had appeared on the first page for his wonderful achievements. Alas! This news article was to cover his suicide in the college campus! This was the third incident I came across in the last 2 months - College students ending their lives suddenly. Should this be attributed to their adolescence resulting in impulsive actions ?  or Should it be called a total miss from the schools who have turned their attention towards just the academics leaving apart the psychological and human aspect of life? Children from their young age are brought up in a very complicated environment. There are two important aspects that are missing to be taught or shared with children today. Firstly, they are groomed to be competitive and trained only for success. Second and most prevalent one is fulfilling anything they wish to have in life.  

Failure is considered a doomed word and children are just preached not to even attempt to get near it. Works out in most cases! But the very basic fact of life that there can be success or failure in anything we do and both have to handled more or less in the same way is what is missing in our society. Pompous celebrations for a success and heart aching insults for a failure are the primary reasons why children of today are not courageous enough to face failures. Basic facts like every coin has two sides, every game has a winner and a loser, there is always a day and a night to complete the 24 long hours are remaining as mere facts only. As human beings our mind is always trained to look out for success in anything we attempt to do. Every event in life is mostly looked upon with a probability of 1. There is an engraved mindset existing in this world, where some of us are able to accept only success. Failures are looked upon as end of life deals in some cases where they could actually be opening up a totally new world with a lot of wonderful options around. 

The second and most important aspect of this article is about the expectations and fulfillment part. In today's world, children mostly get anything they ask for. Some of them who are unlucky, after reaching a certain age and getting out of the familial pressure try to get their expectations fulfilled. This is OK until it stays with pizzas, pens, ice-creams and chocolates. The moment they try to extend this to relationships, it gets complicated and they are doomed to fail. It is always acceptable and correct to talk our thoughts to people, but expecting them to accept us always is unrealistic. We may face failures when we try to convey our thoughts, express our feelings or propose new ideas. Repeated failures may put us down. But one has to understand that whether we face success or failure, the world will just continue to function and nothing stops. Giving away  our precious life for the sake of someone who cannot understand us or appreciate our thoughts and feelings is nothing but an act of cowardice from us. 

This doesn't mean that as parents, siblings, friends, we should prevent someone from trying out things. It is always correct to convey our thoughts , the moment we are sure that we are clear about it and we have a conscious decision made in our mind about it. But expecting that our thoughts will always be accepted or our feelings will be reciprocated is totally unrealistic. Failures are OK to be faced in life. Fearing failures, we should not refrain from attempting to do things. We should always know how to come out of failures in case we get into one of them, as it is an experience in itself which can make us stronger, better Human beings in this world! 

All is well and lets pull up our socks to taste both success and failure ! Good luck!