Role of Mothers in the World !

This was an article from Heart2Heart Sai Inpsires series. It was good to read and understand the need of humble and dedicated Mothers in the World.

The welfare of women is an index of the welfare of the nation. - Baba

"We see in the world today disorder, violence and conflict. To cure these ills, one must shed selfishness, greed and other bad qualities, and rise above the animal nature. It is through charity (unselfishness), that you achieve purity. With purity of the heart you can attain Unity, which will then lead to Divinity. The mansion of human life should be built on charity, purity, unity and Divinity. Women play a crucial role in cultivating these four pillars. Truth, sacrifice and peace are predominant qualities in women. A good wife is of value only to her husband whereas a good mother is a national asset. Only dedicated mothers can offer to the nation children who will strive for the country’s great future. Broad-minded good mothers, who care for the purity and spiritual growth of their children and the well-being of the community, are the need of the d ay.

- Divine Discourse, September, 1983"

Heights of Indifference!

Many a times, when I see people waste food, i feel miserable! Most of us eat at least twice a day. We select what we want to eat whether, we dine at home or outside. At home, we are pampered to eat and we are given a choice of what to eat. Outside home, obviously, we choose what we want to eat. Choices can go wrong in life, but not to the extent of wasting food everytime we sit to eat. Lot of under privileged children in this world don't have food to eat even once a week. Look at the kids below, how happy would they feel if they get to eat atleast once a day ?

I would like to relate the Maslow's hierarchy of needs to this. Each of us constantly keep growing and reach the various levels in Maslow's hierarchy. We have been gifted a decent life and we take all the effort to constantly keep growing. This growth may not be an intellectual growth. It is not climbing the hierarchy, rather growing inside a particular level. Rather, the growth terminates once it reaches the level of esteem. The leap is a huge one between steps 4 and 5 in Maslow's hierarchy and only a very few reach there.

The simple principle of climbing the hierarchy lies in the fact that the growth has to be mutual. It cannot be attributed to a single individual all by himself. Only when someone starts thinking truly of his society, can he attain self-actualization. Becoming financially famous doesn't really get you fame unless you spend it usefully. We can live in a palace , buy diamonds and BMW and eat cashews, pistas and almonds. But our brothers and sisters who are miles away from us don't have even a roof to protect them from sun or rain. While we waste tons and tons of food, they don't get even a grain of rice :( We can honestly climb and go to the state of self-actualization only when we enable our family who is away from us to atleast enter Maslow's hierarchy. Let each of us be a change maker and have this thought in our mind everytime we eat. If we pick only what we want, and dont waste what we picked to eat, 2 people can eat somewhere in the corner of the world!

Was truly devastated when i heard her speak!

http://sunithakrishnan.blogspot.com/

GUIDE TO A BETTER LIFE

This is amazing. He died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book ‘The last lecture” before he died, one of the best-sellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind …

In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan , and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.
May you be blessed by his insight.



POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with,
people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.
Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

Nice Read! Weakness becomes the Greatest Strength!

This was a very thought provoking read for me! Hope you enjoy it!

"Sometimes your biggest weakness can become your biggest strength.

Take, for example, the story of one 10-year-old boy who decided to study judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident.

The boy began lessons with an old Japanese judo master. The boy

was doing well, so he couldn't understand why, after three months of training the master had taught him only one move.

"Sensei," the boy finally said, "Shouldn't I be learning more moves?" "This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you'll ever need to know," the sensei replied.

Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training.

Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament. Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time,

his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals.

This time, his opponent was bigger, stronger, and more experienced. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out.

He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened.

"No," the sensei insisted, "Let him continue."

Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard. Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him.

The boy had won the match and the tournament. He was the champion.

On the way home, the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind.

"Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?" "You won for two reasons," the sensei answered.

"First, you've almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of judo.

And second, the only known defence for that move is for your opponent to grip your left arm."

The boy's biggest weakness had become his biggest strength."

Fav Lyrics

அஸ்தமனம் எல்லாம் நிறந்தரம் அல்லமேற்கினில் விதைத்தால் கிழக்கினில் முளைக்கும்

உண்மை ஊமை அனால் கண்ணீர் மொழியாகும்

பெண்மை ஊமை அனால் நாணம் மொழியாகும்

These lines come to my mind when i think of my best friend !!! As life moves on, my heart keeps telling these lines to me everytime I remember her !!!

"இதயம் ஒரு கண்ணாடி உனது பிம்பம் விழுந்ததடி இதுதான் உன் சொந்தம் இதயம் சொன்னதடி"

நட்பு என்ற அழகிய கவிதையை

அணுஅணுவாக ரசித்த அந்த காலம்

இப்போது கற்பனையில் பொற்காலம்

அழகிய ஸ்வரங்களை கொண்ட கீதம்

பாடப் பாட காணத் துவங்கியது பேதம்

Healthy Mind!

Physical health always is at Rank #1 for most of us. Though mental health competes closely, it unfortunately fails to gain importance. The truth however is that a person's mental well being and confidence can provide a physical well being in most cases. Typically, people in the mid to late 20's and early 30's are the ones who neglect the importance of mental health. Not to blame anyone, this is because of the anxiety and excitement people face during that phase of life which leaves behind either some expectations or traces of worry or too much happiness, neither of the above in over dose being good. A calm and peaceful mind that can react almost similar to all situations is certified to be healthy. This definitely cannot happen in a single day. Any change is eventual and cannot be immediate. If we sense it to be immediate, then it is for sure short lived. Most of us face challenges in different forms - failures , fear of loss of relationships in life,actual losses to name a few . Our mind is extremely powerful. To a normal man like me and you, it is a simple memory device that can remember a few things and behave normally as per the situations. But in some people, it possess a power that no one can imagine. This power multiplies tremendously when they start thinking of the ordeals they have undergone in life. It is very difficult for such people to move out of a thought easily.A feeling that should resonate in such minds is something which keeps reminding them of the happy days in life. They should try to use their mind for thinking that "I will be happy", "I have made others happy too", "Every moment of my life is precious", "I live to bring a change". This will keep their mind healthy and the power of their thoughts would multiply. This would in fact help get them out of the "Engraved" mindset which is a danger zone for anyone to enter. Lets not get there anytime. Lets keep our mind happy and healthy!

Must Read :)

http://absolutedivinity.blogspot.com/2011/06/is-god-existing.html

http://absolutedivinity.blogspot.com/2011/06/then-why-is-god-kept-in-form-of-stone.html

My Favourite God !

Love All, Serve All

Every day when I wake up, I remember these words of Bhagwan Satya Sai Baba "Love All , Serve All". I have tried to use his quotes and speeches to convey my thoughts about 2 important aspects in life - "Positive Thoughts and Contentment". Every child is a born genius. Each of us have our own positives and negatives. Tuning ourselves to the correct frequency is what is going to drive us to success in life. Eventually, as we grow up, we start developing likings and dis likings towards multiple things around us. Most of us, in the mechanical life we lead today, in search of wealth and money, have forgotten the most simplest thing, we can give others - Love. The Love we show on someone today can multiply million times and spread across all living things.

Good thoughts always have the power to travel long. When someone can think and pray for the happiness of someone, it can multiply ten-fold and truly bring in a happy living to the other person. Similarly, when someone thinks bad or evil of another , it can multiply ten-fold and come back to us. So the basic equation of love can be expressed in simple Math as below

Positive thought = Positive thought * 10

Postulates of Positive Thoughts:
1. This can keep multiplying as it moves from person to person.
2. The power it carries with it keeps growing exponentially.
3. Once developed and realized, it can never return to the median or grow negative.
4. This power can eventually end up loving and serving even people doing evil to us.
5. From 1 and 4, the power of positive thought can get into the evil mind and transform that mind to think positive and spread the positive thought
6. As a conclusion , this theory can help achieve anything for Good.

Negative thought = Negative thought * 10

Postulates of Negative Thought:
1. This can multiply 10 times in the negative direction and impact only YOU
2. This doesn't reach out to anyone as it is lame and cannot travel away from YOUR mind
3. This will keep growing exponentially , eventually leading to the decay of the very few good thoughts in US.
4. Finally, as it stays only within us, it doesn't take us any closer to spreading love or happiness in this world.


Thoughts, in general travel from person to person. If we think ill of others, it will impact them for sure, but will impact us 10 times more than the other person. There must be harmony between one’s thoughts, words, and deeds. When there is unity
between these three, there will be purity. Where there is purity, there is Divinity. Whatever others do to you, consider it as good for you. See that you do not lose your humanness under any circumstances. In fact, humanness is your most valuable property.

Another aspect that needs to be spoken about, in today's world is that of contentment. We need food, clothing, shelter, and some money to purchase medicines if we were to fall sick. That is why it is said “O man! Never be over-ambitious, lead instead a noble life by making proper use of the intellect.” Happiness lies in contentment. Dissatisfaction will lead to misery. In order to experience peace, keep your desires under control.

Serve all with love. No amount of money can procure the bliss that you attain by serving others. Money comes and goes, but morality comes and grows. There have been many men of affluence in this land, but what happened to them ultimately? They had to leave the world empty-handed. No one can carry even a fistful of dust at the time of departing from the world. Otherwise, there would have been rationing even for dust in the country. When you leave the body, you carry with you only the good and bad that you have done in your life

Life is a challenge - Meet it! Life is a
game - Play it! Life is love - Enjoy it! Life is Awareness! The best way to love God is to love all, serve all.

Bambaram.in - A modern way to Multiple Intelligences

http://www.bambaram.in/ - Happened to read about this in yesterday's Hindu. Seemed to be a welcome idea for many parents who have kids in the age group of 3 to 12 years. This is more like a lending library for books, CDs, toys, all at one stop. We don't have to do anything except subscribing initially and choosing what we want. There is no restricted timeline for returning the toys or books or CDs and more than all , we don't have to undergo the ordeal of physically being present to choose the toy or the book. We can just choose it online and get it delivered at our doorstep every week!
This doesn't stop here. To imbibe a sense of responsibility in the kids, they have come up with a reward point scheme. If the toys are returned in the same condition in which they were delivered, the kids will get some reward points which after accumulation can be redeemed for a gift! Interesting way to get a sense of discipline and orderliness in kids! I liked it so much! More than all of this, we can give back our old toys to the Online Toy store that moves in the rural areas where the kids will be exposed to education through games.

Engeyum Kadhal - A delight to watch

After VTV, this movie was a visual delight for me. I enjoyed every frame from the beginning to the end. Nirav Shah's camera was awesome! Limited characters , wonderfully portrayed. Musical delight too! Harris' background score gelled well with the story, scenes and dance (Nenjil Nenjil picturisation could have been better though). The story-line was decent. May not seem logical in some parts, but to be true, the climax masked the logical flaws that one might observe. Ravi was awesome in the "dhimu dhimu" song. His expressions were truly killing. Not to leave out Hanshika, a neatly executed show by a new comer. Overall, it was a visual and musical delight watching the movie. Good show by the whole team.

Seeing ourself in other's eyes!

I have been waiting to blog on this topic for close to 3 years now. Every time, I try to do it, I write half way through it and stop for some reason; may be because , I wasn't confident enough of what I was trying to convey or I wasn't convinced if what I am trying to convey is going to make sense to at least one soul that reads it. But now , something in me is pushing me to write about this. Probably it is the impact of the movie we watched over the weekend that is driving me to write about "Seeing ourself in other's eyes!". Affection and Love are two brittle things that have to be handled with care. They cannot be mis-used or mistaken any time, for it deeply affects the person who is ready to shower it on us or who is actually showing it on us. Most of us don't know how to value the affection someone shows towards us. We would be longing for someone else to shower it on us , while we remain blind to some poor soul who is actually living for us. Some of us cannot understand the value of the feeling that someone has towards us. In fact, most of us dodge them away for some temporary problem of ours. We have to understand that "Life itself is temporary and we really cannot make decisions considering just the temporary near future in mind". We can derive happiness from a simple smile we see on the face of someone dear to our heart or a small note of thanks and gratitude showered on us from a small kid whom we helped cross the road. When love and affection can exist even in the smallest of the things we see in life, in the eyes of others whom we help , can we not reciprocate it to someone else ? When someone can make us happy and keep us smiling for 2 minutes in a day, can't we do the same to others ? Each and every one of us should sit and think, how does another person look at us. If they value us, our thoughts, lets try to respect that. We won't find many people who respect us and love our thoughts. We should try to live for those special souls and ensure we make them happy while we are happy as well. Let's start seeing ourselves in the eyes of others. How they value us and our relationship with them is what is going to keep both of us happy and give us a contended life.

I believe with all my heart!

Yet another interesting article I read a few days ago, that showed me the difference between HOPE and BELIEF. Very simple narration, but a truly inspiring one. A caterpillar was lying with his back resting on a green leaf looking at the sky. He was enjoying the beauty of nature while doing so. Suddenly he saw a beautiful and colorful butterfly coming close to him. The butterfly was so attractive that the caterpillar wanted to climb on her wings. He asked her, can I climb on your wings once ? The butterfly was more than happy to let him do so and the caterpillar was so happy to feel and enjoy the silky touch of the wings. He asked her, shall I travel on your wings to see the world ? The Butterfly said is dismay, "Sorry , my wings have the power to only carry me!". The caterpillar was disappointed very much and started crying. He asked the butterfly, if he could also get colorful wings as she has, so that he can fly around the world. The Butterfly replied to him that she "believed with her whole heart that she would get wings one day" and it happened. The caterpillar was so amused by this and said to himself "I believe with my heart that I will get my wings" and went to sleep thinking the next day, he would get his wings. The next day morning , he woke up and eagerly looked forward to see his new wings. To his dismay, he looked the same with his green hair on his back. He started crying. Suddenly he realized that , it was only a hope in him that he would have wings and he did not believe fully from his heart. So he started believing fully from his heart that he would have wings when he gets up tomorrow. He slept that night with a lot of colorful dreams of coming around the world. Next day morning , he woke with all expectations, but was totally disappointed by the fact that he was still the same! Then after several hours of lamenting, he remembered the butterfly telling him, "Believe with all you heart that you will get wings". She never mentioned that he would get it today or tomorrow. So he started believing that he would get what he should some day in life. Suddenly one morning, when we tried to wake up as usual looking at the sky, he realized that he was almost choking to death. He felt like there was a shell around him trying to kill him. Eventually he realized he was coming out of the shell and there were beautiful and colorful wings on him. The butterfly came in search of her friend caterpillar and saw a handsome butterfly. She asked him , who he was and the new butterfly replied that he forgot everything about him except that he kept on believing his friend's words which were "Believe with all your heart that you will get wings" and it happened. Listening to this the other butterfly understood who he was and smiled at him and together they went all over the world enjoying the beauty.

This article very clearly and elegantly brought out the difference between hope and belief. How valuable is the fact that we have to "believe with our full heart that we will achieve what we want in life !"

Gently Falls the Bakulas – Reality narrated in black and white!

Though this book was written 30 years ago, it holds perfectly true and realistic to anyone who reads it today and probably in the future also. I bought the book for the simple reason that it was from my favorite author and role model Sudha Murthy. Eventually, when I started reading it, I truly valued the 150 bucks I spent on it. Not sure if it were a true life incident or an imaginary narration foreseeing the future generations. But to be honest, it did create a difference in my life personally. My outlook towards Indian women changed dramatically. India, as a country has started respecting women in different forums and ways. But when we get into the granularity of a family, it is indeed to be accepted that women are still treated secondary in most cases, while there are a of course a few exceptions because of which we see powerful women emerging out. This was a simple story about a calm and intelligent girl Shrimathi who outshines her classmate Shrikanth in her board exams. She turns out to be a state topper, which comes down as a shock to Shrikanth. He understands the fact that he has a soft corner for her and eventually realizes that the rest of his life is going to be with her. They get married happily and Shrikanth climbs to the pinnacle of his career in a very short time. Shrimathi starts sacrificing her ambitions at every stage of her life for the sake of Shrikanth or his family and is finally left in a state of desolation. She realizes that she has only donned the role of a CEO’s wife and nothing beyond that. She understands that she has her own interests and decides to pursue them finally after a huge amount of self introspection and emotional trauma.
In a gist, what every man and woman, who get into married life understand is, each of the partner needs their own personal space to pursue their dreams with your support. Your spouse is your better half and you need to treat their emotions and ambitions royally. If you cannot contribute to them, at least sit back and enjoy watching them do it. Life is never a one-sided game where only the male partner wins or female partner wins. Only if the two can complement each other, their life will become a rose-bed, else it will be a thorn-bed killing both of them.

Could't resist blogging about this

Many a times, when I try to do something, my mind directly goes in search of the "when" factor rather than the "what" factor associated with the activity under perusal. Basically, it is trained in a way to search for when the results would be seen. Seldom do I really understand the fact that what I am doing is primary and I should wait patiently to see when I can achieve it. Man in general can define the WHAT, but it is God/Supreme power(as seen by different individuals) who defines the WHEN. Faith - I will get what i want (This is needed for sure in many youngsters today). Faith isn't - I will get it when i want it. The question that comes to our mind should never be "Will I get it"; it should only be "By when will I get it"

To close this "God's delays are definitely not His denials"

Under-estimation of subtle things in life

If each of us try to ask ourselves the question below, we will definitely find some transformation in us.

How many times in a day/week/month do we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment , or the smallest act of caring ?

In reality, all of these have the potential to turn a life around. In fact most of us , even refuse to think, when someone talks to us with the true intention of care. It is more often looked upon as a intrusion of their privacy than as a feeling of care and affection. Many friends ripple away from each other or stay aloof for the simple reason of being bothered or cared by friends. It is easy to talk about and may be implement in reality the act of being away, but for an instance if we sit back and just think for a while about the people who talk to us with care and try to spend time on the content of their talk instead of ignoring them, may be who knows, it might become a life turner for us. Never make anyone feel neglected because of your acts. There is nothing dangerous and deadly compared to that.

The feeling of being Hurt!

If it hurts in any relationship(parent-child , husband-wife, brother-sister), then there is love in that relationship. If we give up love because it hurts, then our alternatives are only loneliness, despair and death. Love is just not laughter, it is tears too. This feeling of hurt and love can be easily be compared with a small pebble that disturbs the moon's reflection in a lake. Hurt are those ripples, with which, time tends to settle down to confirm that love was , love is and love will be alive forever. While love deepens with everything that is right, it refuses to diminish for anything that is wrong. Love eventually translates to everything in the world. Love is me, Love is you and Love is us. We can build a loving, lovable and lovely world!

Awakening!

Happened to read this article in "Frozen Thoughts". A gist from it is here.

"Maturity is in factoring the immaturity of others"

A very small story that explained a lot of things!

"A father had the habit of reading the newspaper at the end of everyday. On one of the evenings, his little daughter wanted him to play with her, while he still wanted to read the newspaper. He came up with an idea. In the last page of the newspaper , there was a half page advertisement of a courier company with the world map printed on it. He tore that portion of the paper into big enough pieces , scattered them all over the floor and told his daughter "This is your jigsaw puzzle. Get the map right and we shall play". In the next 5 minutes, while he was into his newspaper, the girl screamed "See appa! I did it". Looking at the stunned expression in her father's face, she added, "Appa, I know you are wondering, how I managed it so fast. As you were tearing the pieces , I noticed the picture of a man on the other side of the paper. Appa, i don't know where is Greenland, where is New Zealand, where is Burma etc.. but I know where the nose should be , where the forehead should be and where the chin must be. I got the man right and the world became right!"

Dont know what to call it!

Several times, it so happens that though my foreground process is busy doing the need of the hour, the background process is in a BLOCKED state, thinking of essentially only one thing. I am not even sure whether I should be worrying too much about it. Primarily , people who may hear about this, might consider me a lunatic! Infact , most of them who have heard this have indeed considered me so and moved away from me. Alas! what is stupid for the world is sensible and sensitive to me. This made me move away from my dear ones. Sometimes, in fact, i dont even share this with anyone. Drifting away from people may not even be a good idea. Who knows it can even have the power of driving me Mad! I am waiting to see what destiny has in place for me. May be my outlook towards certain things are different ? May be there is no one or rarely some folks who are like me??

Thought for the Day!

"We should all strive for unity. First and foremost, young people should come forward to help each other. We must consider all as our brothers and sisters. All are children of God. Therefore, we must live in unity without giving room for any differences. The end of education is character. If our character is good, then we can achieve anything in life. We may think we have won gold medals, acquired high degrees and achieved name and fame. But if we lack character, these degrees are merely pieces of paper. Therefore, it is most essential to safeguard our character which alone will make us truly learned" - Courtesy Heart2Heart Team

இன்றைய திருக்குறள்

இன்னா செய்தாரை ஒருத்தல் அவர்நாண
நன்னயம் செய்து விடல்

Thirukural!

Starting today, I am planning to put down simple yet thought provoking Thirukurals here.

To get started, the best one that comes to my mind first is this,

யாகாவார் ஆயினும் நாகாக்க காவாக்கால்
சோகாப்பர் சொல்லிழுக்குப் பட்டு

Today's Inspiration!

"When the tiny little ego assumes enormous importance, it causes many problems! That is the root of all your travails and miseries."

This is a sentence TRUE in every aspect of itself. I think most of us spend a considerable amount of our time in life questioning about this EGO and literally demonstrating it. This small little thing can create monsters in terms of problems in relationships. Let me not blog more about this. People should read and absorb the essence of this sentence and realize it!

Courtesy :HearttoHeart Team.

Plethora of Thoughts!

Most of us , at some point of time in our life so far would have definitely faced something that would have made us feel bad or ignored or would have potentially brought us down. It could be as simple a reason as unable to buy something you liked so much or something huge like the loss of a very near and dear person in life. A very distressful feeling comes into your mind and occupies your heart till time plays its own magical role in bringing out the realization of that loss. Ok, now getting onto relating loss to pain, pain can be physical or emotional. Physical pain is very evident and can be eventually cured. Emotional Pain is something that can take a while to go off your mind. Sometimes, it may seem realistic, while at other times it may sound stupid. I like this Thirukural for several reasons in the same context.
"Yaakaavar aayinum naakaaka kaavakaal,
Soggapar sol izhukkupattu"
What a wonderful and truthful thought from Thiruvalluvar! How many of us really go back and look at what we did on a particualr day ? How many of us realize, we are hurting someone knowingly or unknowingly ? How many of us really care to correct ourselves? The most common answer I get in most instances is a very simple one. Why should we even bother about any of the above questions if we understand that this not a botheration for the others ? People, one simple thing to realize for a happy living is self -realization. We should come out of the FOLLOW mindset and try to transform ourselves to the LEAD mindset. It is very easy to follow, while it is very very difficult to lead by example. Simple lesson is "Standing out in a crowd for a good reason is what makes someone successful!"